24th February 2020

Love is not a talking word

Love is doing word

Love’s not just receiving

Love is in the giving

It ain’t just standing in the multitude

it’s in your attitude

That’s what Love is all about

The words of this song, written by my big brother Bem Ichull, define Love in simple terms.

More than speaking words of Love, we must demonstrate actions of Love.

It’s amazing how far one deliberate act of loving kindness can go.

The attitude of love is one that speaks louder than words.

John the Beloved wrote, “Little children (believers, dear ones), let us not love [merely in theory] with word or with tongue [giving lip service to compassion], but in action and in truth [in practice and in sincerity, because practical acts of love are more than words].”

1 John 3:18 AMP

…In practice and in sincerity because practical acts of love are more than words!

 When your words are not backed up by actions, you’re insincere.

Think of practical, everyday ways to show your spouse you love them.

Ps: this is marriage dipped in blood so… but you should definitely apply this in all your relationships.

It is said that there are as many ways to show someone you love them as there are people in the world to love.


So, to get you started, here are 11 practical, everyday ways to show your spouse they mean something really special to you.

  1. Make her/him a priority.

The law of marriage (which is the law of priority) says “Marriage works best in first place.”

Right after your relationship with Jesus Christ, you must choose your husband/wife first above your children, friends, hobbies, even work and so on.

  1. Be slow to speak and quick to LISTEN.

“No matter how small or insignificant their conversation may sound. You don’t have to give a verbal response, just listen.

  1. Support them in the pursuit of their goals.

Ask them questions about how their goals are going and find out how you can help.

  1. Show appreciation for the little things.

Give a gift of love no matter how small it is. Just make sure it’s something your husband/wife would like.

  1. Call during the day when you’re away from each other, “just to check on you”.
  2. Be vulnerable.

Be H.O.T. (honest, open and transparent) to each other. Give yourselves permission to vent and don’t be critical or judgemental of each other.

  1. Initiate sex more often

Don’t just do it when you’re feeling in the mood, work harder on helping your lover get in the mood. It shows you desire to get intimate. Stop waiting for who starts first.

  1. Unplug when you’re together.

Focus on your beloved and not your phone, computer or TV.

  1. Husbands, let go of tradition, be involved in raising your children and doing the things society tags “roles of a woman”; don’t leave it all to your wife.
  2. Activate courtship mode. Husbands, pursue your wives; and wives, avail yourselves to be pursued.
  3. Apologize and ask forgiveness when you’re wrong( even if you don’t think you are) and be quick to forgive.

The devil will have no room to function in a home that’s void of strife, bitterness and unforgiveness.

Choose everyday to walk in love, not only in word but also in practice and sincerity.